Confused....

[ak49]

Hi everyone, hope you're all doing well. Anyhow I have a little bit of a confusion problem. I'm 18 almost 19 now, and up until I was about 16 I always considered myself straight, but then when I was 16 I was in a locker room changing and I noticed this other guy in the locker room, he had a very attractive figure and I caught myself "checking him out". I was very aroused for a while after that, but that was my only homosexual instance I had up until just the last couple of months. Now, lately I've been craving a relationship with another guy but here's the catch, I'm only attracted to men when I either am having a day where I'm excessively h---- or engaged in some sort of ------ activity. Also one more thing, a few days ago I was talking to a male friend of mine and he sent me a link, which I had no clue where it lead to, and he told me it was an article. So trusting his words I clicked on the link and it was a picture of his ----- while it was up, within a few seconds of this I had an erection myself, however I do not find him attractive in any way.

Anyhow, I would like some advice on what the community thinks is going on with me. Am I just having some hormone issues or am I becoming bisexual? Thanks everyone!

[fastbreak]

mate with a guy, see if you like it.

[orionsyndicate]

`I am kinda having the same issues. I see certain guys and its a turn on, but don't know if I could actually go through with messing around. I'm married and my wife isn't about to let me try.

[phaz2010]

`I would say don't equate erections with arousal or attraction - for whatever reason (maybe I'm messed up), the most bizarre and everyday stuff would give me erections at the most ridiculous and unpredictable times, several times a day for several years ever since I started puberty. Maybe within the past 3 years or so I've "calmed down" a little (i'm 26) and erections are more "situation-appropriate". And another thing I've noticed is that arousal is an entirely different thing for me - it's emotional, I can feel my body having a hormonal response: my pulse quickens, my breathing gets deeper, I start to notice that my nose seems more sensitive (smelling pheremones?) and my genitals get really sensitive. What I'm tryng to say is I can be erect but not aroused.

So having an erection, in my book, doesn't mean much. if you find yourself thinking "that guy is really attractive" maybe it's because he's actually attractive? i dunno, i think members of both sexes are attractive and maybe that's unique to me, but i don't really think it means much - what i would say (and this is my opinion) is that what's important is who you see yourself settling down to build a life together with. just my 2 cents